Bon Secours Mercy Health: They Call Me “Confused.” I Call It Clarity.

It’s almost funny now.

The Virginia State Bar.

A judge.

Opposing counsel.

Even newly assigned defense attorneys.

They’ve all leaned on the same dismissive line:

“She’s confused.”

Apparently, asking for basic decency and legal rights qualifies as confusion.

What They Call Confusion

If you suffer a psychological injury on the job, why wouldn’t you expect access to the award-winning physician wellness services your employer proudly advertises?

Why threaten instead of treat?

Why deny therapy and then unleash aggressive litigators to ensure you never receive basic care?

Apparently, I’m “confused” for asking those questions.

Asking for Information Isn’t Confusion

I’m also “confused,” they say, for asking something the law clearly entitles me to:the name of the insurance carrier.

All I wanted was to speak to an adult in the room—someone who might resolve this without endless litigation.

Instead, every response was the same refrain:

“She’s confused.”

Let’s Be Clear About One Thing

I wasn’t confused when I served as their EEG Medical Director.

I wasn’t confused when they asked me to speak to primary care groups.

I wasn’t confused when I trained the nurse practitioner and EMG technician.

I wasn’t confused when I landed in the top 15% of Press Ganey scores in under six months.

I wasn’t confused when I became the top RVU producer for the clinic.

I wasn’t confused when I helped expand service lines and drive clinic growth.

The Moment I Spoke Up

But the moment I raised concerns—

first for patient safety,

then for my own safety—

That’s when I suddenly became “confused.”

What This Process Has Given Me Back

They can keep calling me confused.

All it’s done is make me more resolved and more clear.

I may not know how every ruling will end, but I know this:

This process has given me my voice back.

The voice that was taken from me in that clinic of hell.

The voice that tells the truth.

And that truth is finally standing in the light—

exactly where it belongs.

Call to Action

If this resonates with you, don’t look away.

• Share this story so retaliation, gaslighting, and institutional abuse don’t stay hidden.

• Speak up if you’ve been labeled “confused” for asking for basic rights or safety.

• Support independent advocacy that names names and tells the truth when systems won’t.

Silence is how this continues. Clarity is how it ends.

Follow the work. Document everything. And remember: asking for dignity is not confusion—it’s courage.